Before the Wedding:

Multiple spa days before the wedding day

More sophisticated bachelorette parties, such as shopping trips to NY or
tanning in Hawaii.

Wedding Day:

Gowns with lace boleros for the ceremony or during dinner; boleros can be removed for dancing.
A lace bustier for added elegance. Trainless dresses - no bustling involved
 

Florist: Susan Grove

Instead of a veil, clusters of flowers with subtle embellishments worn at the back or side of the neck during the reception.

Shoes:
Lots of detail to contrast with a perfectly elegant strapless gown

Flowers:
Bouquets embellished with feathers, tiny crystals, or a lovely tassel or fur trim

Reception:

Supper club receptions, relatively unstructured

Kings tables are still in Eclectic table linens, table coverings in a combination of descending colors Sit-down dinners served family-style

Seafood raw bars
No cake cutting, elegant dessert buffets